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Real Life Clutter
If you can't understand how a book, dustpan, shoe last, random power cord and a vintage coffee grinder could end up in the same place then this post is probably not for you. 

Decluttering has embellished my life a great deal and I'd like you to meet the woman helped me work through the clutter.


When I began decluttering my home I felt completely overwhelmed. In fact you could say I felt like I was losing my mind, so to speak. If you also struggle with clutter then you are probably familiar with how stressful clutter is to live with and how even more stressful it is to deal with.

I had no idea where to even start, things had built up slowly over about a decade and all the things I'd been putting off felt like they were pressing in on me. I did a lot of 'stuff shifting'. Moving stuff from one spot to another, ostensibly to sort through it, clean, organise and purge excess stuff.

What I was really doing was getting more and more anxious, stressed out and hopeless as I faced all of our stuff; all of our plans to do things that never actually happened, all of the 'one day I'll get around to it' projects, all of the 'I'm gonna' do that just as soon as I get the chance' and all of those 'I'll be able to do ____ when ___' and other cool idea's and plans that we never seemed to find time for. I couldn't make decisions about all this stuff and I kept shifting stuff around as though that was actually going to solve the problem that we just had too much stuff.

Then I found Nony (short for anonymous), and I became an avid reader of her blog A Slob Comes Clean. This woman knew exactly how I felt, she'd been there herself and she'd figured out how to work through it.

Her honesty and openness spoke to me, she wasn't some naturally clean person who just assumed her way was obvious without understanding why keeping stuff under control wasn't easy for everyone. She knew what it was like to be embarrassed to open the door and let people into her home. She also knew what needed to be done to fix it.

I figured that I could learn from her experience and save myself the effort and angst of making a few mistakes.

I started with her daily habits and I conquered my inability to maintain our kitchen. I adopted her weekly cleaning schedule adapting it to my own needs. The consistency with which my bathroom was cleaned and my floors were mopped improved a great deal. My house has became easier and easier to maintain and even when I get behind sometimes I know exactly what to do to restore order without getting stressed out.


I focused on less, for a really long time, my primary focus was just LESS.


Nony said to start with the easy stuff. All the decluttering experts said to start with the easy stuff. The difference was that unlike other experts she helped me figure out what the easy stuff actually is.

Nony helped me understand the value of re-decluttering. RE-DECLUTTERING!
That as you declutter your attitude toward stuff changes, when you come back to re-declutter things that weren't easy stuff' the first time around you'll find yourself perceiving much of it as easy stuff the next time you declutter. And its TRUE!

I have decluttered so many things that I had not been ready to declutter the first time around, things I thought I would never declutter but now I find it's simple to say farewell to.

And when re-decluttering on it's own wasn't really enough I started to grasp her 'Container Concept' and apply it to my home.

I read A Slob Comes Clean right from the start all the way through. Now that's 7 years worth of blog and if you find your home is driving you a little insane, if you feel like you're losing your mind because you can't keep on top of the house chores and your home looks like a bomb hit I could not recommend this blog more.

However, 7 years of blog is a lot to read! What about a condensed version? What if instead of 7 years of blog posts sharing every little step and miss-step and learning curve, you could get your hands on a  condensed version that spelled out in simple, achievable, totally do-able methods How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind?

What if it were a proper book, like with paper and covers and new book smell? Or an e-book or an audio book? You're in Luck!!! It's coming, it's coming really, really soon. It's here! It's in book shops and all the usual places you can buy books and e-books and audio books.

How To Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind

How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: Dealing with your houses dirty little secrets, by Dana K White creator of A Slob Comes Clean is available for pre-order NOW, TODAY.

It's taken me a little while to get this post together. Okay, so it's taken me a long time to get this post together. I was going to share it with you before How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind was released on November 8, 2016. It's now nearly the end of January 2017. I just want to apologise because that means you will miss out on the pre-order bonus, which is truly awesome and I hope will be made available in the future.

How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind is a fun read, I know, because I got an advance e-copy to read for free so long as I promised to share my book review, which I did, on Goodreads. I wrote my review straight from the heart and meant every word. You can read my Goodreads review and many others too if you happen to be a Goodreads member, but if you're not a member it's free to become one.

Good Reads Review Snippet

Now if managing your home and staying sane sounds impossible to you and you feel like you have already totally lost your mind, that there is no hope for your home ever coming back from the brink of mad-messiness then you might benefit from Dana's book 28 Days to Hope for Your Home {not for the mildly disorganized} Develop four habits over four weeks.  Discover hope for real change in your home. Which used to be available as an e-book but is included as an appendix in How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind.

What if your home is fine? You don't really need this book right? Probably not, however if you know someone who is messy or if you live with someone who drives you crazy because of their messiness then reading How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind will help you to understand how their brain works and why keeping things tidy is a struggle for them.

How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind:  Dealing with your houses dirty little secrets was released on November 8 2016.

In the spirit of full disclosure, yes, I did receive an advance copy of How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: Dealing with your houses dirty little secrets in exchange for reviewing How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind on Goodreads.  I was not required at all to write a blog post about it and the only thing I get if you buy the book after reading this is Dana's thanks. But the real reason I'm sharing this with you - well, other then that it just might be exactly what you need right now - is that I'm quoted in the book!!!!

In the chapter 'The Truth About Habits" on page 35, under the heading 'For Those Assuming The Dish Washer Thing Doesn't Apply Because They Don't Have Dishwashers" you will find a little quote from yours truly.

For real! Yep, I get quoted in a real book, Wheeeeee! Okay so it's not the real reason I'm telling you about this but it's pretty cool right?

Decluttering has positively impacted my daily life far more then I would ever have imagined it would when I started. It has opened the way to embellishing my life in so very many ways.


Book Cover

My favourite quote by Dana in the book is about 'Less Is Good'.

Chapter 15
Don't Get Organised 
page 100 
"Less
Just declutter is my plan, and less is my goal.
When we have less, the house stays under control. ...With less as my goal, I can succeed in any amount of time. While I justify postponing a decluttering project until I have time, I can achieve less in fifteen seconds by sticking a too-snug T-shirt straight in the Donate Box.
Less is good. "

Oh and by the way, I've got the audio copy of the book too, it's a good listen whilst decluttering. I also purchased the physical book. Now I'll have to buy it again because I've already given my copy away.

I know Nony as Dana now and I think you'd like her as much as I do. To me Nony is the woman who started a blog because she was loosing her mind over the state of her home she couldn't seem to figure out and Dana is the decluttering expert who totally knows what steps to take to get your home under-control. Whatever name you know her by she's still funny.

Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go and do my dishes.

Do you know the secret?

11 comments:

  1. Oh my, that sounds familiar! I know what I should be doing, I just don't know how and when. It is like you said, even thinking about starting is enough to cause you stress! There is so much stuff around that I know I don't need but... And the kitchen. I try to clean it and every day it looks the same. Talk about frustrating...

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    1. I must've purged half of my kitchen over the last couple of years, it has made such a difference, but somehow more stuff keeps creeping in. Keeping the kitchen easy to clean and uncluttered seems to impact the house as a whole so much more then I would ever have imagined.

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  2. Conversations that go on in my house: "Why are we keeping this broken coffee grinder?" Because I'm going to fix it someday... "But we already bought a new one!" I know, but I'm still going to fix it... *Throws broken coffee grinder away next time he leaves the house*
    I used to be organized, then I met a man. I still clean my bathrooms and kitchen regularly, but I've gotten into a state of overlooking clutter... And worse, I've started adding to it. I recently went through a major purge and threw away a ton of stuff. He already filled two empty shelves I made in a closet. Plus, there's the laundry and garbage he leaves scattered around; he's driving me nuts. Omg I need this book!

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    1. It's hard living with someone who is clutter prone, they can impact upon your own clutter tendencies. It took me a long time to realise I just had to worry about what I was doing and lead by example. It was probably the hardest challenge. Dana certainly helped me work through that.

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  3. This sounds great! I have several boxes of things I need to go through but I keep putting it off so I've made myself a mini deadline of when I need to get ti done by so here's hoping I can stick to it and get rid of some of my stuff! This was the kind of post I needed to read today to remind me of that! - Tasha

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    1. It always feels great to have it gone once it's done. I hope you get through those boxes soon.

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  4. Stella!! I took that exact same pic, when I got my copy! that's funny!
    I love your top pic here!
    And I totally Noticed your quote in the book!! I said out loud, "Hey! That's my friend Stella!!" to no one else, since I was alone in the room...
    And I've already given away my copy too! To my sister! Not that it has had effect on her house yet....
    We are so alike! Nony saved my life too! And, I'm still working on it...

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    1. I wish I hadn't been so busy when the call for quotes came out. I could have written a hundred! I love the book and my SIL is actually reading it and I think it's been helping her and her family. Decluttering is a lifestyle not a project so I guess we'll both be working on it for ever. ;0)

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  5. Sounds like a great book. 2007 the boys and I went to live alone with little more than we needed to live (well I did manage to get most of the boy's toys etc.). When we moved house in 2011 I was dumbstruck: Where did all that clutter come from?! In just a period of four years whith little money to spend?! And if I have a look around now... HELP! (and we're not just talking about yarn...!) Guess I need the book - desperately!

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    1. That's exactly how I felt. It's not like we had money to spend on lots of things but somehow there was clutter everywhere and it seemed like an impossible task to work through it all. I think having a tight budget makes it worse because you know you can't spare the dollars to just re-purchase stuff should you need it.

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  6. Sounds great. I've found so many of those things to be true, myself.

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